|Look at those two kids, so in love. I'm glad we couldn't see what the future held.|
Gabe was 5 when we got back together. I think that every child of divorce prays that their parents will get back together. Most of them don't get their deep desire. I remember Gabe's face when we told him that Daddy was moving in. He said "This is my dream come true". We were back together, but it still wasn't always easy. We have been through more in our 18 years than anyone should ever have to. So many marriages can't deal with the strain the death of a child puts on them. We came out stronger. Don't get me wrong, it wasn't easy. There were times we really rethought our decision to be together. Today we are more deeply in love than we were when we first started dating. Dating love is infatuation. Ours is strength. We know that together there is nothing that we cannot withstand.
From the time that we got back together we talked about renewing our vows. At first it felt like it might be too soon, then came Grace. Then came bills, then the twins. There never seemed to be enough money to do it the way we wanted. Then the unthinkable, we lost Gabe. How could we rejoice in each other, when we hurt so much? We needed time to heal. Anytime we considered it, something else came up. Well this time we are putting our feet down! Next August 21 we celebrate anniversary number 20. We are renewing our vows DAMN IT! I booked the hall two months ago. There's no going back now.
Now for the fun part, planning a wedding. My girlfriends are all already excited. Keep in mind for those of us who are married, we have been married a long time. For those not married (o.k. it's my best friend), she gets to live vicariously through me. I have so much to do. I'll admit it, it's fun. Maybe I will even splurge on some wedding magazines, who knows. What I do know, is that this will be a time of joy. We will celebrate, because I think we've earned it.
p.s. please feel free to pass along any "beach themed" ideas, I might need all the help that I can get.