Thursday, 7 February 2013
Thinking Kind Thoughts
I try to teach my children the importance of kindness. I try to model this with my own actions. I commit acts of kindness on a regular basis. If I see someone in need I always step in to help (whether they want want me to or not). I try to do the right thing. I insist that in our home the children treat each other with kindness. Kindness is important. I say all of this and believe it with all of my heart and yet I am a hypocrite.
I preach kindness, and yet my harsh words are teaching something else. I am a very critical person. I would never ever say an unkind word to anyone, but I have no problems with saying unkind things behind their backs. I realized the other day how much my "unkind" words have become ingrained in my children. The other day I heard one of the kids talking about someone that we know using very unkind words. They were using the exact words that I had used myself to describe this person's physical appearance. There was nothing that I could say, because it was my exact words. This was a teachable moment, but instead of my teaching the kids, they had taught me.
I need to find the beauty in others, instead of seeing their faults. I need to do this, and then teach the kids to do this. I need to not only practice outward acts of kindness, I need to be thinking kind thoughts. I am a work in progress and sometimes I need reminded of this...